I just found out that one of my favorite websites, Offbeat Home & Life, is going to publish a blog post I wrote!!!!!!
I wrote the post a month or so after I got married back in 2012 and tucked it away. A few days ago I found the post, thought it was awesome, and I polished it up and posted it here under the date when I originally wrote it. It’s called “Stir Fridays, Wedding-Free Wednesdays, and Tasting Tuesdays.” My favorite part about the post is that my husband and I still do Stir Fridays!!! You guys, it’s been 3 years since we got married and we still do this habit we started in the year before that… That’s amazing! That’s why I liked the post so much, because it made sense and was still working! To be fair (and honest) we don’t do Stir Friday every week, but whenever we have stir fry, we call it that. We still cook dinner together when we can and we still call a lot of our cooking experiences “Adventures in Cooking.”
We don’t generally go out to dinner on Tuesdays anymore either because our schedules have changed dramatically since I wrote the post. We do keep a list of new restaurants to try and when neither of us has something specific in mind for dinner, we go to the list! We moved about four months ago and although we’re only a few blocks from our old apartment we are technically in a new city. We’ve been dutifully exploring new restaurants and delivery places. We are still searching for a delicious pizza place but we found the most AMAZING sushi restaurant!
Wedding-Free Wednesdays has mostly faded from our routine… I think that using that rule/habit worked for us that we used until we didn’t need it anymore. Perhaps our communication skills have gotten better and/or we just don’t have that kind of huge stressful event weighing down on us anymore. While we don’t have a whole day set aside I think we are both good at communicating when we get overwhelmed and then we ease back off the topic or work to resolve the thing causing stress.
I’m so scared and excited! Sending the post to Offbeat Home was a huge deal for me because:
1) I love that site and read it (seriously) every day,
2) I shared something I wrote with the intent to get it published, and
3) I linked the post to my blog.
I did a happy dance when I got the email and I ran around my house yelling about how excited I am! Then, I made my husband dance with me and I read him the email (punctuated with lots of OMGs)… Now I figured I better post something with this year’s date on it so that if someone clicks the link to the blog they don’t think it’s a dead blog! Which leads me to…
A Little about the Blog
I have been posting on this blog for a couple of years now. The way I usually post is to post things that I wrote in the past. I like to do that because looking back I can add context to make the “old” stuff have more layers of meaning. Like, the Stir Fridays thing… I posted it because it worked for us and is just a normal part of our lives now. I love the before and after of the post. These days I try to post at least once a week.
I often consider posting about more recent events in my life but it’s complicated… This is my “secret” blog. I haven’t shared this blog with my family or friends because I wanted a place to share my writing without the anxiety of knowing everyone on my Facebook feed will be sent an update about it. A lot of what I write about involves the people in my life and it’s not always comfortable to know that they’re going to read it. (Since I stopped being friends with jerks I figure that if I told my friends I had a blog, they would probably read it.) This blog started as a way for me to get more comfortable with sharing my writing. (Seems like it’s working since I shared a post with a big website!) Eventually I want to get comfortable enough that I will send my novel out into the world to try and find an editor and publisher.
There are a couple gaps when I stopped posting for a while… During one of these gaps I had a job where I didn’t feel comfortable having a “secret” blog because I was pretty sure it would get found, so I let it just hang out for a while. After I changed jobs I picked the blog up again. Then, last October I had some major medical issues to deal with (Downside, 3 major abdominal surgeries within 5 months. Brightside, not cancer! WOO!) I’m actually still healing/recovering from these surgeries (nerve pain is a lingering, spiteful b**ch) but I’m getting better and that’s awesome! I’m working on a post about my advice on dealing with medical stuff when you have severe medical anxiety. I (perhaps surprisingly, perhaps not) have found a lot of success in dealing with medical-related things such as:
- Scheduling appointments,
- Actually going to medical appointments,
- Having major surgeries,
- Dealing with work after you’ve been injured and while you’re recovering,
- Organizing medical bill and insurance statement mail,
- Paying medical bills, and
- Working with your partner throughout all that stuff above.
That post is one I also plan on sending to Offbeat Home because I looked for advice on this sort of stuff and it was hard to find. I’m also going to be continuing to post about my Study Abroad trip to Italy. In addition, I’ll be posting my favorite photos from National Geographic’s photo of the day, funny things from Pinterest, and lots of book-related posts.
Thank you so much for visiting my blog and reading my stuff! If you have requests for the type of posts you’d like to see more, please let me know if the comments below!